Malady of Today's Generation

Serious is scary.

Yes, that's true. We are in the times where people settle for what is at hand and not clarify such so long as you feel happy. I am talking about relationships--without label.

You go out on dates. You constantly see each other. You send mushy text messages. You call each other at night. You call him Baby. You say I love you. BUT you are not a couple. When people ask you, "Is he your boyfriend?" You find it very difficult to answer. You do not know what he is to you and what you are to him.

You do not talk about the future. You do not ask about his plans. You do not tell him your plans. You only care about the now, where you will hang out later, when you will see each other again, but never your long-term goals.

Then you wake up one day confused. He has no sweet morning message, no phone calls. You feel tired. You are not happy anymore. Then you ask yourself, "What happened?" You realize that you do not have the right to demand as you do not know what really is it that you can demand. It came to you that you did not know what to expect and that you do not even have the right to expect--because you are not his girl friend. It was never clear to both of you how you should act, what you should be.

You find it hard to talk about what is really the thing that you have. You are too scared to ask about your thing. You are afraid to know that that in a relationship thing is something you are not ready for. You are scared of commitment. But you are more afraid that if you clarify the thing that you have, you might just lose it and you do not want that.

And when it is gone, you try to move on from something that was not even there in the very first place.